Miscommunication. This has to be the single most difficult thing when it comes to relationships. I have been both misunderstood and have misunderstood others. A couple blogs ago I mentioned that I was "made for relationships....lot of relationships".....and in being made for that I guess I need to be made for and have to deal with the issues and miscommunications that happen in relationships. Good relationships dont come seperate from "issues". But isnt it funny how we run from the "issues"? I think I run for several reasons. Sometimes it brings out things in myself that I dont like....insecurites or hurts, sometimes it is out of surprise that "this person" would hurt me, or sometimes it is just cause I am tired of having to go down the same road again and again with a person. Relationships are life....but man they can feel like death sometimes. haha. I think for me...I am someone that loves with my whole being and if you are in my inner circle or front row of life (like Stacey has talked about in her blogs)...I really get so involved with their life and loving so much...that when they hurt me it is the deepest kind of wound. Especially with words. Words cut so deep. And I know I have a "blessing and curse" with my words. It comes with how God has wired me. I love to speak words of encouragement and life...and I believe God has gifted me that way. Nothing better than that. Nothing better than standing in registration at Rustproof and see this young girl or guy walk by that doesnt make eye contact and looks so uncomfortable and say "Wow...I love your shirt" and see them light up and walk in the room with their head a little higher. But the "curse" can happen when I say something in sarcasm or even without thinking and I hurt people. And with the influence God allows me and the great relationships I have...I can blow it too. And it sucks to be hurt or hurt people. Sometimes you can "get it right" right away and sometimes, depending on the relationship, it needs time before things cool down. Even in "getting it right" you just hope things can return to the way they were. But the truth is....sometimes with these close relationships....they dont. So that is why it must say in the Bible so much about our "tongue" or words. They really are life and death. I have a lot of room to grow in all this....and I believe God is changing me for the better. I pray that God can allow me the grace that I need to change....and I pray that he gives me the grace to forgive others when they hurt me too.